Mourning a Pet Hurts and Takes Time. These tips can help with the loss of a beloved animal.
Everyone Processes The Loss of An Animal in Their Own Way, and the complaint Can Be Significant, Says Reni, Founder and Owner or Zaanstad Animal Crematorium. “We see many accidents here. For example, with a kitten that has bone hit by a car, we see a lot of anger in addition to complaint.”
When an animal you have cared for well for year dies, it is the end of a long era in your life, says reni. “We had a few koi carp that were twenty years old. You might think: strange to bring a couple of fish here, but someone has cared for them for half their life. Isn’t it nice that there is a place where they show pericod?”
The Death Of A Pet Has No Rituals
Mourning Requires Action, Says Nienke Endenburg. She is a GZ psychologist and specializes in relationships between people and animals. She Guides People in Mourning the Loss of Their Pet.
“I had a client who made a painting for her cap, and some else composed a song. I or suggest making a photo book of your pet. You can have the animal cremated and scatter the ashes, plant a Tree for it. Or you make some something of the grave.”
When a Partner or Family Member Dies, There Are Immediately Many Things That Need To Be Arranged, Says Endenburg. Such as the inheritance and clearing the house. That keeps people busy duration that initial period. There are also clear rituals. “With the loss of a cap, all of that is not there, and the environment is of not very understanding.”
People quickly suggest looking for a new animal, she says. But your deceased pet with its own unique character is irreplaceable. The tip to buy a new cap is not at all comfilling, Says endenburg. “It’s not a refrigerator.”
Comparing with Human Death is not necessary
The way an animal dies also plays a role in the complaint and processing. Horrible scenarios where euthanasia does not go well and an animal keeps screaming: that happens occasionally. Or an accident or illness in which a young animal dies while you expected to be together for a long time. “Talk to your veterinarian. And if the event is too traumatic for you, seek professional help,” advises endenburg.
The Comparison With The Loss Of A Human Does Not Need To Be Made, Say Both Animal Experts. Everyone Experiences Mourning for a Loved One in Their Own Way.
Endenburg: “We know that 80 percent of Pet Owners Consider Their Animal as a Full Member of the family. A dog or cat Lies in your bed, Goes on vacation, out to dinner, you walk with it Every day, for year. People can have animal.”
Not only with dogs and cats, but also with birds, horses, donkeys or rodents, says the psychologist. “And people with amphibians and snakes will contradict me if I say that you can’t have a close relationship with them.”
‘Value the Little Animal’
“It’s just an animal” is a remark that you should better swallow when some loses a pet, says reni. “The Death Of A Sister You See Once A Year is Really less impactful for some people than the dog or Guinea Pig you live with for ten years. You don’t have to compare, Value the Little Animal. It’s not ‘Just an Animal’.”
When it comes to grief processing, Accordance to Reni, You as An Owner Should Mainly Do What You Feel Comfortable with. “The Environment May find it all a bit Crazy, but you need to be able to say goodbye coperly.”
In The Animal Crematorium, Music is Played for the Animal, People Give A Speech, Put a Cuddly Toy in the Coffin. They come alone or with the whole family.
“With the ashes, some people have jewelry made, or they scatter it. We or remove some tufts of hair and give it along in a Bottle.” Recently you can also opt for a water cremation: an Environmentally friendly cremation where you only keep the bones.
When will the pain lessons? The Mourning Process Lasts An Average or 8.5 Months, Endenburg Knows. And the Stronger The Bond With The Animal Was, The Longer The Mourning Process Lasts. Reni: “Someone who breaks a Leg knows: in Six Weeks I Can Walk Again. But If you Lose A Beloved Animal, No One Knows What To Expect. People Can End Up In A Circle Of Grief, from which they can only get out with help.”