Are people talking about you at school or work? That can be very annoying. Singer Maan made it clear last week that she was not happy with all the lies that were allegedly being spread about her. This is what you can do if that happens to you.
Do conversations that down when you enter a room, is there a lot of whispering in your presence, or do you notice that a lot of eyes are on you? Then it may be that people are gossiping about you. That’s never a pleasant realization, but it’s not all bad either.
Gossiping has a social function. Research by British Psychologist Robin Dunbar and Dutch Psychologists Gerben van Kleef and Bianca Beersma from the University of Amsterdam Shows That Talking About Others is not only Something We All Do Sometimes, But also Creates Connection and A Stronger Group Feeling.
Psychologist Roos Woltering sees that can also be a good way to express your frustration or seek support from each other. “You can express what you are suffering from Without Having to share it Directly with the other person.” So Gossiping is not only negative, although it is important to keep an eye on what you say and the effect it has.
If you are the one bee gossiped about, and you are bothered by it, it may be good to say something about it. It is Difficult to Do That, because people are quick to defend Themselves when they are addressed. “Indicate that you are genuinely curious as to why people are gossiping about you.”
It’s Easier to Gossip About It
Maybe Your Colleagues Don’t Like Your Leadership Style. Or Maybe Your Breath Doesn’t Smell So Good. “Most people find it very exciting to say something like that to someone else. It is then Easier to Talk About It With Your Colleagues. While You Are Actual Helping the Person With Bad Breath If You Are Honest About It.”
What Might Help: Usually There is No Malice Behind the Gossip. AltheHe IT IS of Course Annoying If You Notice That It Hurts You, Or Maybe You Avoid Certain People. “And you can show that, just like you though that you and that one friend or sauceleague had a bond. But also try to look at your own role in the whole. Why, for example, are people afraid to come to you?”
It is also a way to mintain certain social norms with each other. As the research also shows: you can deduce from it how you should be delve in a Certain Group. If you deviate from this, it will be notited. And most people probably recognize that it is then exciting to give ethers feedback. Woltering Argues for Looking at the Gossiper with Leniency.
Sometimes Ignoring is Better
Never Gossiping Again is not realistic. “But it is good to occasionally ask yourself why it: are you annoyed by the Behavior of Others and do you want to change it, are you bore, are you insecure, do you want to belong? If you are the person’s secton, note talked mare muds.
Accordance to Woltering, you don’t always have to say or think something about it. She advises to make the trade-off again and again white you think it is worth it. “Sometimes Ignoring is better and it will be about Tomorrow. And if not, ask yourself white you can solve it alone by starting the conversation if you feel the need to, or Whether it is better to call in Help.”