An ice cream, soon to the Efteling and tomorrow to Monkey Town; The always entertaining parent is a grateful subject for spot and criticism. How do you ensure more relaxation with a two -week May holiday on the doorstep?
Today’s educators are helicopter parents, curling parents, soft cargo bike mothers. And the children Snowflakes, Slapjanuses: a complete Monkey Town generation that cannot entertain themselves. A lot of labels were devised for the modern parent and children.
The parenting style deviates from the past and so we think of funny umbrella, over -concerned parents are invented on social media, we comment on the excesses and write parenting professionals opinions. The message of experts is generally: please let children fail, fall and deal with setbacks.
People who now raise children have started to think much more about how they want to raise, while according to orthopedagogue Kina Smit, their parents may hardly have opened a parenting book.
“When I read the term Monkey Town generation, I just rolled my eyes. Anyway a label, a judgment,” says Smit. “Yet I found him very striking. I recognize a lot of it in my parenting practice and from my own family life. In my practice we see the excesses.”
Monkey Town is an indoor play paradise full of trampolines, slides and fast food. In an educational context, the symbol for how children are nowadays are raised according to some experts: an over -organized and super -safe environment, in which there is little room for independent experiences and risks. Moreover, it is not always a special outing that you are looking forward to, but a place where you go on a normal Tuesday afternoon after school, says Smit.
‘Your child really short is something else’
Those excesses from the Monkey Town generation are about parents who are always busy making everything as fun as possible. At the same time, they also want a fun and compelling life. In doing so, they lose sight of the needs and emotions of their child.
“For example, I hear from the parents of a child with whom we have just found ADHD that they are going to travel through America for a month in the summer. But such a child has to throw a little stick in ditches for a month at a campsite. Or a father who got a golden chance at his work and goes to work for a month from New York.
“We don’t want to be inferior to others with a nice life. And so we really have to be fun. Can we accept that life is often not fun at all, do not raise and not even your children?”
Smit thinks that there is often fear of not being a good parent, to do your child short or to make mistakes. “I think the actual deficiency is something else. You do your child short if you don’t see him or her, don’t look at what is needed, don’t move with his or her emotions.”
‘Your child does not need Monkey Town’
Less is more, says orthopedagogue Loes Waanders. She recently wrote the book Relaxed and parents points out to look closely at their own child. And not to listen to all opinions on the schoolyard or lists that you will find on the internet.
“There is nothing wrong with Monkey Town. When I recently had a strong deadline, I was also there with my laptop, while my children played. It is not my favorite place, but at the time it was handy.”
According to Waanders, a pitfall at these types of places can be that you think your child needs it to have fun. “Your child does not need Monkey Town: that is a fact. It will be just as happy from playing a game with you at home. So ask yourself why you want to go to a amusement park, play paradise or something big. Are you a bit over -stimulated and do you not want them in the neighborhood for a while? Do you think your child is only happy things and otherwise?”
On Tuesday afternoon after school to a trampoline park to get everything out of the closet for a few more hours: of course there are children who do you a favor with it. And yet you deprive children with such a lifestyle, Smit thinks. “Let your children be bored, build something, come up with a plan, recover from that incredible amount of incentives and information they have received at school. Every person needs that, young and old.”
An amusement park or swimming paradise, those are activities that are already nice. “They are prefabrics. If you are bored at home on the floor, then fun activities can arise from creativity and playfulness.”
Chille parent forms counter -movement
Also realize that your child cannot indicate boundaries properly, says Waanders. “Perhaps he has the time of his life in an amusement park, but he sleeps badly, he cries a lot, there are tantrums or is he very tired. Pay attention to that, because your child will not say: Mama or Dad, I think it is a bit much.”
The Monkey Town parents: they are stereotypes and generalizations. The majority of the parents really have things in balance, says Waanders. And there is also a counter -movement, Smit thinks: the so -called chill parent. “He shows demonstratively that his or her child can get dirty, take risks, but has to entertain himself. It is again to take each other’s size. I would say: stop it, it is just raising. It is my field and yet I say: parenting is not a rocket science.”
From comparing you become uncertain, you start doubting and maybe do things that don’t suit you, says Waanders. “Parenting becomes easier if we judge less quickly, if there is more involvement and support. Parents are not divided into black and white: the hawks and the wild, nice and free parents. And you are not bad if you are in Monkey Town.”
An Ice Cream, Going to the Efteling Soon, and Monkey Town Tomorrow; The always entertaining parent is a grateful subject for mockery and criticism. How do you Ensure A Little More Relaxation with A Two-week May Holiday Ahead?
Today’s Educators Are Helicopter Parents, Curling Parents, Soft Cargo Bike Mothers. And the children are snowflakes, wimps: an entire monkey town generation that cannot entertain Themselves. A lot of labels have bone devised for the modern parent and for children.
The Parenting Style Differs from the Past, so we come up with funny umbrella Terms, overprotective parents are imitated on social media, we comment on the excesses and parenting professionals write opinions. The Message From Experts is Generally: Please Let Children Fail, Fall and Deal with Adversity.
People who are raising children now have given much more thought to * how * they want to raise them, while their parents, accordance to Educationalist Kina Smit, May Have Barely Opened a Parenting Book.
“When I Read the Term Monkey Town Generation, I Rolled My Eyes For A Moment. Another Label, A Judgment,” Says Smit. “Yet I found it very apt. I recognize a lot of it in my educational practice and from my own family life. In my practice, we see the excesses.”
Monkey Town is an indoor play paradise full of trampolines, slides and fast food. In an educational context, it symbolizes how children are raised these days accordance to some experts: an over-organized and super-Safe Environment, in which there is Little Room for Independent Experiences and Risks. MoreOover, it is not always a special outing that you look forward to, but a place you go to on a normal Tuesday afternoon after school, says smit.
‘Really Shortchanging Your Child is Something Else’
Those excesses of the monkey town generation are about parents who are constantly trying to make everything as fun as possible. At the same time, they also want a fun and compelling life theme. In Doing So, They Lose Sight of Their Child’s Needs and Emotions.
“For Example, I hear from the parents of a child who we have just diagnosed with adhd that they are going to travel through america for a month in the summer with a camper. Buts such a child shouldy dittches a campingiteiteiteiteiteiteiteit. Who Got a Golden Opportunity at Work and is Going to Work from New York for a Month.
“We don’t because to be inferior to ethers with a fun life. And so really everything has to be fun. Can we accept that life is not fun at all, parenting is not, and just your children are not always?”
Smit Thinks that there is of a lurking fear of not bee a good parent, or shortchanging your child or making mistakes. “I think the actual shortchanging is Something Else. You Shortchange your child if you don’t see him or her, don’t look at what is needed, don’t move with his or her emotions.”
‘Your Child Doesn’t Need Monkey Town’
Less is more, Says Educationalist Loes Waanders. She recently wrote the book * Relaxed parenting * and points out to parents to pay close attention to their own child. And not to listen to all the opinions on the schoolyard or lists you find on the internet.
“There’s Nothing Wrong With Monkey Town. When I Recently had a tight deadline, I was also there with my laptop while my children play. It’s not my favorite place, but it was useful at that moment.”
A pitfall with thesis child of places, accordance to Waanders, can be that you think your child needs them to have a good time. “Your child Doesn’t Need Monkey Town: That’s A Fact. They are just as happy playing a game at home with you. So Ask Yourself Whyelf Why You Want To An Amusement Park, Play Paradise Or Something Else Big Again. While?
Going to a trampoline park on a Tuesday afternoon after school to get every’s out of it for a few hours: or course there are children who you would make happy with that. And yet you deprive children of something with such a lifestyle, Smit Thinks. “Let your children be bored, build Something, come up with a plan, recover from that incredible amount of stimuli and information they have received at school. Every Human Being Needs that, Young and Old.”
An Amusement Park or Water Park, Those Are Activities That Are Already Fun. “They are prefabricated activities. If you are bore at home on the floor, fun activities can arise from creativity and playfulness.”
Chill Parent Forms Counter-movement
Also realize that your child Cannot Set Boundaries Well Themselves, Says Waanders. “Maybe they are having the time of their life in yet another amusement park, but they sleep Badly, cry a lot, have tantrums or are very tired. Pay close at that, because your child not say: mom or devad, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I find it, I found.”
The Monkey Town Parents: they are stereotypes and generalizations. The Majority of Parents Really Have Things in Balance, Says Waanders. And there is also a counter-movement, Smit Thinks: the so-called chill parent. “They demonstratively show that their child is allowed to get dirty, take risks, just have to entertain Themselves. It is hike to task again. I would say: stop it, it’s just parenting.
Comparing makes you insecure, you start to doubt and maybe do things that don’t suite you, says Waanders. “Parenting Becomes Easier if we are less quick to Judge, if there is more mutual intervention and support. Parents are not divided into black and white: the hawks and the wild, nice free parents. And you are not bad if you are in monkey town.”